Just What do we Really Need?

For those of us on a spiritual path, it often comes to a conversation of what we need and what we want. What do we need? We need things to help with our physical survival. We need things for our basic emotional, mental, physical and spiritual needs. We needs things that our hearts and souls desire for fulfillment, self-expression, purpose and happiness. There are things that we really want or desire. The last category is things we would like to have or experience.


I really want to go back to the French Quarter again. It is one of my very favorite places. Do I need to do this to be happy? Do I need this for my physical well-being? We could take the position that I need to go to the French Quarter for my physical and mental well-being. I could say that but I would be deluding myself. My basic needs are fulfilled with a roof over my head, an income, a support system made up of family and friends who I matter to. I need food, health care and clothes to warm/cool me.


If prosperity is an expression of having what we think we need, how do we know when we have enough? When are our needs met? When could more prosperity mean nothing but “more”?

There are many philosophies about what we need or just desire. They also differ on what we could desire and what we desire that may be bad for us in the long run.


There are two scenarios I have experienced in life. One is that I have gotten what I desired and thought I deserved. So was I happy and fulfilled? Truth be known, only for a short span of time and then I wondered why I had wanted it so much. Has this happen to you? I bet it has. We develop a fixation on a person or a thing that we are sure will make us happier than we have ever been. Of course, sometimes God has a sense of humor and gives us exactly what we want. So then you have it. There it is and you don’t feel at all happy and might even feel like sending it back.


So the materialistic viewpoint is that we should learn how to handle our desires. We should try to satisfy all our desires such as amassing wealth, possessions, power and status. The Western Religions tell us that wanting things is sinful and we could go to hell. In some of the New Age philosophies , we can have all we want in life as long as we are open to having it. So, do we cherish our possessions or do we let go of what we perceive will make us happy? On the other hand, we have all experienced not having what we want or giving up our desires and wants. If we shut ourselves down, we block the life force from moving through us. We then can become depressed and numb. If we are honest with ourselves, we have to admit that we have all been here in this position. We need to relate to our needs and desires to bring us true prosperity.


The needs in our lives are what is necessary to our physical well-being. There are needs on all of the levels, spiritual, physical, emotional and mental. Our true desires are our yearnings for the things we feel will enhance and enrich our lives. First, we must meet our physical basic needs. If they aren’t met we move through the items in the first paragraph.


There is another kind of desire, which is false craving or addiction. We think we want this thing, but we get it and it doesn’t enhance our lives. We pursue a desire to a point where we become obsessive and out of control. This happens because the obsession becomes an addiction. Anything that we do habitually to avoid the pain of not having our real needs met can be an addiction. Addictions can cover the pain in our lives and numb your ability to feel.


Now, our true desires come from our heart and soul, and we need to honor and trust them. We just need to understand the difference. Our desires move us along our path through life and keep us learning, growing, and developing our creative expression. All of us here, are developing and increasing how we express ourselves through our creativity.






Accept your abundance.

Accept your abundance.

John Lennon                                                                                                                                                      Accept your happiness with gratitude

Be blessed with prosperity

Be blessed with prosperity


5 thoughts on “Just What do we Really Need?

  1. Zara says:

    It’s beautiful…there are many ways/ individual needs/paths a soul has to go through to know what they really need…the underlying question is…how often do we really embark this journey? 🙂

  2. Joe Bradshaw says:

    Nice post Barbara, which are you more inclined to embrace… Hell?

    Go to the French Quarter and live with a smile on your face you deserve it!

    Hugs and a huge smile:)


  3. So you’re making me spill the beans. =) Several months ago I planned a series along this line. So it’s in the works. Good job distinguishing between the different kinds of desires and needs. And yes, good take on the counterfeit pleasures of addiction.


  4. inavukic says:

    Well said, Barbara!

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