There is much beauty in the miniature of life. Not everything has to be bigger to be better. I hope you enjoy these miniatures and the art of shaping them and encouraging them to grow in the shape you with them to grow.
One in every four women will experience Domestic Violence in her lifetime. 84% of victims of abuse per year are female. Children who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and children when they are adults.
Over 10,000 domestic violence victims receive shelter in Ohio annually. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), money is the biggest issue for each domestic violence member programs. One large area where money is sorely lacking is for children recovering from domestic violence.
34,027 arrests were made under Ohio’s domestic violence statue in 2006, and 4485 domestic violence arrests were made under other sections of the penal code.
Funding is a large challenge faced by Ohio domestic violence service providers. Part of each domestic violence programs funding comes from a percentage of marriage license fees and are controlled by the counties. This is the formula followed in many states. Rural programs have no real financial programs for the support of local shelters.
The Ohio Domestic Violence Network (ODVN) is a statewide coalition of DV programs. You can contact them at http://www.odvn.org.
Services provided include technical assistance, resources, information and training to those who are affected by DV. The mission is to educate people and make them aware the danger of abuse.
One in every four women will experience violence in her lifetime 85% of DV victims are women. An estimated 1.3 million women will be abused each year. Abuse is a generational thing that children learn because they see it happen.
Almost one third of female homicide victims that are reported in police reports are killed trying to get out of a battering relationship with an intimate partner. In 70 % to 80% of homicide victims were battered by their domestic partner prior to their demise. Less than one fifth of victims who report injuries seek,medical help.
Witnessing abuse between intimate partners is the strongest risk factor to children growing up to be a victim or a batterer. 30% to 60% of perpetrators also abuse the children in the home. Forced sexual assault is also abuse. It is illegal to rape your wife and a person could go to prison. Marriage doesn’t mean you own a person. They still own their own body and you may or perhaps not be able to use it.
The cost of intimate partner violence exceeds 5.8 billion dollars a year. Victims of intimate partner abuse lost almost 8 million days of work because of the violence perpetuated against them. This loss is equivalent to 32,000 full-time jobs. Another 4.1 billion dollars is for medical care of the victim. There are 16,800 homicides each year. More victims are murdered trying to leave an abusive relationship that at any other time during it. This is why women often go back over and over again.
Domestic violence is one of the most underreported crimes. Now, cities like Norristown are penalizing the victim for calling the police, (please see previous blog), Who wants to be homeless or have their children being homeless? Only approximately one fourth of physical assaults and sexual assaults are reported. States differ on the type of relationship that qualifies under domestic violence laws.
For more information or to get help, call:
THE NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE 1-800-799-7233
THE NATIONAL TEEN DATING ABUSE HOTLINE 1-866-331-9474
The words of our own Obama watcher!!!!
Domestic Violence and the War on Women is continuing. There are some Federal laws which protect women and some are state laws. Evidence, sentencing, police involvement can differ from state to state. In Pennsylvania, for instance there are firm laws to protect the victim. However, in Norristown, Pa. victims are penalized for calling the police for help.
Yes, I said for asking for protection, they are breaking the law.
There are three strikes in Norristown, Pa. If you are abused and call for help three times. No matter how serious your abuse is. The police will send your landlord or mortgage holder a letter asking them to throw you out due to the Three Strikes Rule. Nope, you didn’t misunderstand. I call it, let’s jump on the victim whether female or male. Let us increase the suffering. The city ordinance specifically includes “domestic disturbances” as behavior that gets victims thrown out of their homes.
A woman recently feared losing her home so much that even when her abuser attacked her with a brick, she was too afraid to make a call to the police. He later stabbed her neck and she was still to frightened of being homeless to call. He would get the house. After a housing court refused to order an eviction, the ACLU stepped in to protect the victim. The city backed off. The city of Norristown does encourage the battering of its citizens with this type of laws.
Norristown is not the only city in the country have passed “nuisance ordinances” or crime. Milwaukee’s Domestic Nuisance Ordance showed violence was the third most common reason that police citation. This is far above drug crimes, property damage, or trespassing. Women of color in our country suffer the most from these bizzare citations.
My suggestion is to go to your local police department and ask what the laws are where you live. If there are these type of laws, get involved. Women working together can accomplish anything they put their minds to. So remember: YOU CAN’T BEAT A WOMAN.
Peace is a human goal that fits with love like a runway model and the newest creation by a leading designer. Prayers for peace can be written and used by anyone. Peace begins within each of us. So the question is how to start. How exactly does peace begin with each of us?
Someone is rude and you do not respond in kind. Someone dumps their project on you and will still get half of the recognition, and you smile and do the work. Someone screams at you and you have a lot you could say but know it will make the argument work, so you don’t say anything in that moment. Succeeding in circumstances such as these, is the beginning of peace.
I praise You for:
My passion, My partner
My portable peace.
For purpose gives direction.
My partner, life life meaning.
My people, a heritage. My Portable peace is
Your grace unequaled. ” —Ruth Willians
” Blessed are those who speak the words that calm us,
quiet us, and bring us back to you.
Blessed are those who, with a look or a touch, still the fear that leads to hate.
Oh, help me to be one of you peacemakers. Where there is strife, help me bring calm.
Where there is pain, help me bring healing.As I go through my day and make the world a better place,
Help me reflect Your light, Your love,
and Your ever-present wisdom.” —-Sue Bradford Edwards
Peaceful people are loving people.
I am a radiant being of Love
Deep at the center of my being there is an infinite supply of love. It is inexhaustible. The more love I give the more I receive.I will share my love all of my life. Love and I are one.
There is a woman who is a role model for any woman in our country. She is a poetess and has written an autobiography. She broke into mainstream America when she read at President Clinton’s inauguration. She read “On the Pulse of the Morning.”
Today she is teaching at Wake Forest University in Winston-Salem, NC. My favorite of her books is, “Even the Stars Look Lonesome.” She is a woman who will share her thoughts and what they mean to her.
“The loss of love and youth
and fire came raiding,
a horde of plunderers
on one caparisoned steed,
sucking up the sun drops,trampling the green shoots
of my carefully planted years.
The evidence: thickened waist and leathery thighs, which triumph
over my fallen insouciance.
the arena has changed
I must enlist new warriors.
once natural as raised vioces,
importunes in the dark.
Is this battle worth the candle?
Is this war worth the wage?
May I not greet age
without a grouse, allowing
the truly young to own the stage?” —-Maya Angeloe