October is Prevent Domestic Violence Month

Purple ribbons signify that we do not accept Domestic Violence

Purple ribbons signify that we  do not accept Domestic Violence

The NCADV or National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and it is the national leader in the effort to create and influence Federal legislation that possibly affects the lives of Domestic Violence victims and children. You can reach NCADV by calling 1-800-700=SAFE. Purple is the color for Domestic Violence.

Witnessing violence between one’s parents or caregivers is the strongest risk factor for transmitting violent behavior from one generation to the next. Little girls who watch their mothers being battered and abused learn them to be victims. This is serious and so sad to see. Children who always tried to protect their mothers may end up as batterers or victims. Historically, females have been most often victimized by someone they knew. One in four women experience Domestic Violence sometime during their lives. 85 % of Domestic Violence victims are women.

Almost 1/3 of female homicide victims that are reported to police, according to police records, are killed by an intimate partner. Less than 1/5 of victims reporting an injury from intimate partner violence sought medical treatment following the injury. If you go to the hospital for treatment, a doctor or a nurse will ask you if you have been battered. It takes bravery to tell. You are afraid of being hit, pushed, shoved, punched or killed. Statistically, more women are killed trying to get out than at any other time. 

This is why it is important to get to a shelter. There are Domestic Violence shelters where women and children can be protected.They will be fed, clothed, and given counseling and legal options. Shelters are filled with women who want to help you and women who have gone through what you have been through. Most cases of Domestic Violence are not reported to police. In 70-80% of victims who report this crime need to be treated in Urgecares or Emergency Rooms.

There is a cycle of violence and an episode of battering or abuse is followed by the hearts and flowers phase. Abusers are so sorry, they cry, they swear it will happen again, often they buy expensive gifts. If the woman doesn’t get out here, things will go along for a while and then the tensions increase. The abuser begins to call names and yell and then he will hit the woman again. This cycle can go on and on for years.  The cycle of violence must be broken to save lives. The cost of providing the health care to abused women who are beaten by their intimate partner exceeds $5.8 billion each year.

I began working in Domestic Violence in the 1970’s and there is nothing I haven’t seen. I have even served protection orders to the men who batter their partners. I wasn’t ever hit but many times I had to explain that I was a friend of the court and if they hit me it wasn’t DV, it was assault and they would receive 2 years in jail. That saved me more than once.  What is happening in homes across America, is very frightening and we must stop these tragedies. 

Abuse is found everywhere. The mailman’s wife, the pastor’s wife, the musician’s live-in girlfriend. Wives of Senators get battered, and the wives of Fortune 500 CEO’s. The perfectty calm charming man that works next to you will go home and beat his wife because dinner wasn’t on the table when he got home.  I am going to continue talking about abuse, date rape and rape within marriage for the month.

In 1994, NOW, the National Organization of Women, coordinated a march and protest in Washington DC. There were hundreds of chartered busses filled with feminists and feminist men. We had strung a clothes line up in the National Mall. Hundreds of feet of clothesline and we hung up t-shirts in memory of the moms and sisters and friends who died because they were beaten to death. We also hung up the shirts of those who survived and got out. There were thousands. Everywhere you looked was a shirt that represented a human being, a woman who had been beaten over and over or had eventually been beaten to death.

Alcohol lessens the inhibitions of the abuser and it usually ends in a terrible beating.

Alcohol lessens the inhibitions of the abuser and it usually ends in a terrible beating.

it is time to stop the Violence. You can volunteer at your local shelter. 

The Face of Domestic Violence in Ohio

The Wisdom of John Lennon

The Wisdom of John Lennon

One in every four women will experience Domestic Violence in her lifetime. 84% of victims of abuse per year are female. Children who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and children when they are adults.

Over 10,000 domestic violence victims receive shelter in Ohio annually.  According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), money is the biggest issue for each domestic violence member programs. One large area where money is sorely lacking is for children recovering from domestic violence.

The violence by intimate partners is physical, mental and emotional.

The violence by intimate partners is physical, mental and emotional.

34,027 arrests were made under Ohio’s domestic violence statue in 2006, and 4485 domestic violence arrests were made under other sections of the penal code.

What do we want? We want the violence to stop

What do we want? We want the violence to stop

Funding is a large challenge faced by Ohio domestic violence service providers. Part of each domestic violence programs funding comes from a percentage of marriage license fees and are controlled by the counties. This is the formula followed in many states. Rural programs have no real financial programs for the support of local shelters.

The Ohio Domestic Violence Network (ODVN) is a statewide coalition of DV programs. You can contact them at http://www.odvn.org.
Services provided include technical assistance, resources, information and training to those who are affected by DV. The mission is to educate people and make them aware the danger of abuse.

No matter where you live don't be silent about battering.

No matter where you live don’t be silent about battering.