That Empty Chair


I had an empty chair. Very good blog. Hugs, Barbara

The Return of the Modern Philosopher

chairOh empty chair

Out on

The front porch,

How you

Rattle me.

You are a

Constant reminder

Of how lonely

The House

On the Hill

Has become.

That my home

Is haunted

By a

Heartbroken Ghost,

Who looks

Remarkably

Like me.

You are a

Throne

Without a

Queen.

The King

Wanders

His castle

Aimlessly,

More a jester

Than the

Rightful owner

Of the crown.

How long

Will you

Remain there,

Rocking

In the

Summer breeze?

I wish

I knew…

Will someone

Ever make use

Of you again?

I cannot handle

The idea

Of that

Chair

Remaining

Forever empty…

Just like

My heart.

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“Community Heart Award” for Bloggers Who Care


 

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My dear and treasured friend Dr. Rex has nominated me for this wonderful award, about whichthe original creator (Kev at  http://kevs-domain.net/) said this:

community is a social unit of any size that shares common values. Although embodied or face-to-face communities are usually small, larger or more extended communities such as a national community, international community and virtual community are also studied.

In human communities, intentbeliefresourcespreferencesneedsrisks, and a number of other conditions may be present and common, affecting the identity of the participants and their degree of cohesiveness.

Since the advent of the Internet, the concept of community has less geographical limitation, as people can now gather virtually in an online community and share common interests regardless of physical location. Prior to the internet, virtual communities (like social or academic organizations) were far more limited by the constraints of available communication and transportation technologies.

One broad definition which incorporates all the different forms of community is “a group or network of persons who are connected (objectively) to each other by relatively durable social relations that extend beyond immediate genealogical ties, and who mutually define that relationship (subjectively) as important to their social identity and social practice”

 

I am deeply touched to receive this award, as it speaks strongly to my feeling of Community in the Blogosphere, and to the friends I have made here at WordPress and beyond.  As those of you who regularly visit my blog know, I do care deeply for all humanity, and for the spiritual well-being and the peace of the Earth which we share, which makes this award precious to me.

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I am not aware of any rules associated with this award, but I would like to nominate the following wonderful blogs, each of whom shows a caring heart for the community:

  1.  Cassidy Frazee
  2. Jackie Saulmon-Ramirez
  3. Jenny Cecillia
  4. E.D.
  5. For Women’s Eyes Only
  6. Cindy Knoke
  7. Xena
  8. eTinkerbell
  9. Sunshine
  10. HuntForTruth
  11. Quiall
  12. Linne
  13. ScrapperJude Designs
  14. MsTranquility
  15. Chess
  16. Inavukic

Children and Family Services


In America, we all know that each state has a foster system set up to protect children from homes where they are battered, molested or neglected. There are many single parents in our society and that is an added stressor for the parent. If the parent has medical or mental health issues, that can make the ability to take care of one of more children more difficult. I am sure that many of you are shaking your head in agreement.

 

With the crash of 2008, many people lost there jobs and their health insurance. They also struggled to keep a roof over the family’s heads and food on the table. Now being a single mom is not a picnic and children need to be protected. Being a single dad or mom is a full time job. They need support such as family members, care givers, teachers, pediatricians and many others.

 

I have a story about a hard working young mother who had a hypersensitive toddler. She had a babysitter who would stay with her little one while she was at work. One day the little girl got so out of control, the sitter called the police. She was placed in a special needs day care and it was supposed to help. She tore the place apart and they no longer wanted her. Her behavior was too alienating for the staff. She was finally diagnosed with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, bipolar disorder and a mood disorder.

 

The mother called government agencies asking for help. The state’s Community Services Board sent a therapist for counseling sessions and provided a mentor. Things began to look up. Cuts to the state’s budget began to affect services which cut some of the services that had been helping this family.  The little girl grew and kept getting better. One day she  had what I call a meltdown. They had run out of her favorite candy at day care,  The  mom had to chase her and became short of breath. She asked a friend to watch her little one and went to the hospital. The hospital diagnosed her with pneumonia.

 

That night, she was talking to the nurse on duty and confessed that she was overwhelmed by her daughter’s hyperactivity. She stated she didn’t know exactly what she was going to do. The nurse apparently in the mom’s opinion took it  “overboard.”  The staff called Child Protective Services on her.

 

Right now, there are 58,000 children living in faster care in America who are legal orphans. These are children who have had their parental rights terminated by the courts. Most of the approximate 400,000 children who end up in the system are there because of parental neglect. Many cases are connected to poverty and a lack of community and government support.

 

In our case, the mom asked for the little girl to be sent to her father in Texas until she got some help and back on her feet again. The father could not control the little girl and she ended up in the Texas foster system. The state of Texas sent the mom a letter asking her to come to Texas for a hearing. She didn’t have the money for the airplane ticket. She would have had to fly from Virginia to Texas.  So she did not go. The next communication she received from Texas was a letter stating that her parental rights had been terminated.

 

Once children are in the foster care system, it is difficult for families to reunite.At least 15% of children in the system live in institutions or group homes.  Most of the children in the foster care system  suffer from emotional distress. Nearly one half of them have chronic health issues.

 

In general, federal law requires authorities to begin proceedings to terminate parental rights within fifteen months of a child entering the foster care system.

Once rights are terminated, the children become stuck in temporary homes and other temporary situations. Some of these children will eventually be adopted. As many as 40% of children age out of the system. In other words, they stay there until they are eighteen and then they are on their own. 60% of children who enter the system as teens, are never adopted. And again age out at eighteen.

 

Once in foster care, most families are placed in a binary system: Parents and children must reunite  completely, or be separated permanently.Children with a troubled or an unsafe home life may indeed need a separation from parents. But they still can need the parent sometimes. These parents may be the only stability in a foster child’s life.

 

Now, at least sixteen states have provisions for reinstating parental rights, but it rarely happens The family courts are trying to get more leeway for children and their birth parents. Reinstatement of parental rights is not on the menu right now. The states are promoting a Temporary Termination of Rights so that a parent can get treatment, health care or find a new job and then have their children back.

 

Another problem is that about 23% of children in foster care are placed with relatives in what is called kinship foster care, often with grandparents. These grandparents are often retired and on a fixed budget. Only 4 states guarantee that guardians receive the same amount of funding provided to foster parents. 20% of states still provide no subsidized guardianship  funding at all. So if Grandma is taking care of the children for awhile, she gets no money to dress or feed them. This is a huge societal gap which needs to be addressed.

 

Parenthood is the most important thing we do in this life and we never receive instruction. Parents wing it and hope for the best. Children need to receive better than this if they are going to grow up as mentally healthy members of society.

I thought that it was time that we looked at our Foster Care system here in America and began to think about ways to improve it, and make it actually helpful to children, instead of a place where more harm can occur.  I’m interested in your constructive feedback, and starting a discussion.  Please don’t hesitate to share your own experiences — the more we all know, the better the chance that a solution can be found.

 

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Comments – Saying Nothing At All – Poetry


Children Of Light

Just saying:   yellowstarshiningbright

My thoughts for today were about weeding the garden but instead, and after a thorough search on my blogs followers, I am beginning to question the authenticity of my followers. I wish I could WEED some of them from  my blog. I have well over a thousand, yet I only hear from a handful of those! Now something is dreadfully wrong here! My blog is over four years old, thus, I suspect, most of the original followers have long since left blogging. ( Makes sense due to the fast pace of today’s lifestyles. )  Then why can’t I delete them? A question I should be asking  “The  Happiness Word Press Team”, I suppose. Then there are those that follow and “like”, but never comment. How can anyone like a post, almost each and every one, and not comment? Beats me! I would like to suggest that there are…

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Writing Process Blog Tour …. On the “road” again!!


It Is What It Is

~~June 30, 2014~~ 

Thank you very much for inviting me to this great blog tour Patty!

You can find Just Patty at: http://petitemagique.wordpress.com/

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The questions are:

What are you currently working on? 

Unlike some of my fellow bloggers who are published authors, I select the topics that I post about in a very informal way. I look at the news, remember special holidays, keep track of celebrities – death anniversaries, birthdays – celebrate important days in history, review topics related to animals, music – remembering old hits and posting about new artists and their new songs, consider causes like autism, Earth day, Oceans Day. The environment is a very important subject for me as well as medical issues: medical conditions and adverse effects to the human body due to GMOs, ChemTrails, etc.

Spiritual topics attract me. I try to post inspirational and motivational posts to uplift the human spirit.

From my…

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