We need to look at the lives and accomplishments of women for inspiration and understanding. Women’s lives have been written only in the last few decades. One of my passions is to read women’s diaries that they leave behind. They give us a glimpse of their heart and souls. Their dreams and passions. The cost of accomplishing a life outside of the ordinary can be steep for many women. Those who were successful have paid a dear price for the life they created.
The irony is that women follow dreams just as men do. Martin Luther King had a dream and millions of women also have dreams. Women and men need to create meaning in their lives and their communities. It is not unfeminine to reach for public power instead of settling for private power. The unfulfilled woman and man are a loss to our society because each of us has much to contribute.
Women have been conditioned to do what is expected and not what they need. Some women want to stay home and be a full-time mother. Some want careers, some want many children and some don’t want to have any children. These decisions are the ones men make every day, but women are encouraged to fit into the proper box. This is a danger for women because to deny who you are and what you are capable of accomplishing is to short change the world and ourselves
The Universe gives us all gifts and talents and I believe we are expected to use them to create meaningful lives. Women who are living in violent relationships, who are verbally humiliated and are insulted day in and day out are suffering from emotional abuse.
The abuse takes many forms. Physical and emotional and psychological abuse can wreck a woman’s self-esteem and she learns to be a victim. This is one role no living being should be in. Feminism gives voice to those who have never had a voice in their own lives and those who have lost it as they have gone through the challenges of life.
Women are not inferior and they are able to make good choices about how to live and how to follow their dreams. Women have a right to have public power and not just power in the bedroom or the kitchen. Power is the ability to take one’s place in whatever discourse is essential to action and the right to have one’s part matter.
An assertive woman who has discovered her power is not “less of a woman” than a man who has discovered and uses his own power. Many people today confuse assertiveness with aggression. They are two concepts which are not at all related. Many times assertive women are maligned by people like Rush Limbaugh when he coined the term” feminazi.”” I have never understood why men are so intimidated by an assertive woman who knows who she is and what she wants and where she is going.
Women are human and that means that we are capable, intelligent, compassionate, passionate, strong and have the right to live our lives without interference from families and government. We can choose candidates, take care of our health, make decisions about reproduction. We don’t need keepers, or a strong man guiding us. Don’t let anyone tell you anything different. You are each perfect as you are and have the right to be who you are. Don’t allow the voices around you keep you from accomplishing your dreams and touching the stars.
We are equal. And in 2013, we will make the government legalize that equality. Being different, seeing from a different perspective does not make you unfeminine, it helps you to hold your head up and straighten your back and live with the dignity that The One gave to each of us. Different is not dangerous. It is just different!
I am all for lifting each other up instead of breaking each other down as women. As women we need that positive support and connection in our daily lives. Great Post – Happy Hump Day!
Thanks. We are doing it now. 🙂 Hugs, Barbara
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Thank you Ms. Barbara for this post.
Thanks so much
This is just beautiful. Thanks so much for saying what needs to be said. I fear that women’s voices are getting lost in the din these days. When I find a blog like this it is like finding a treasure walking on the beach: unexpected and precious in its own right.
Sue. Thank you for your supportive comment. We have come through a time of backlash, but I feel that we are moving past that and the pendulum will swing and women will sing….and vote…and thrive!
Sisterhood wins historically and it will in the future too.
Fabulous Miss Barbara! You speak my heart today. Love the Uncle Sam. Thank you for your force and courage.
Thanks for your supportive message. Hugs, Barbara
thanks for that. you are absolutely right. makes me embarrassed to be a guy.
no please, just be one one the men in the world who believe and treat women as equals. Other guys will follow you.
When I first met my wife, she was pulling herself out of poverty working a job and attending the University of Maryland uisng her own income, loans, and pell grants (that horrible federal government). After hard lessons learned from childhhood disappointments, her dream was to make her own career path and not have to rely on anyone. 20 years later, she’s had a successful accounting career, is a top-notch mother, and certainly doesn’t need me or anyone else. Dream fulfilled. I’m just glad she allowed me to join her team.
Well said. You should write a blog about her. I bet it would really touch hearts coming from a feminist man!
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