Child Abuse


Girl, 4, Beaten and Zip-Tied to Bed for Climbing in House, Tells Police Her Name Is 'Idiot'Jennifer Denen, 30, allegedly allowed her boyfriend Clarence Reed, 45, to call her daughter ‘idiot’ so often, she thought it was her name. (GCJ)
Clarence Reed, 47 and Jennifer Denen, 30, both of Hot Springs, Ark., have been charged with domestic battery, permitting abuse of a minor and endangering welfare of a minor after a staff member at Cooper-Anthony Mercy Child Advocacy Center told police a 4-year-old girl showed signs of abuse. (KARK-TV)

The 4-year-old girl had deep purple bruises, a black eye, a swollen cheek and a mark on her forehead.

She also had healing scars across her back, dried blood in the corner of her mouth and ligature marks on her wrist, authorities said.

When a police officer asked her what her name was, she had a startling response: “Idiot.”

Her mother’s live-in boyfriend, police said, regularly called the child “Idiot” instead of using her actual name. He also zip-tied the girl to her bed as a form of punishment, according to a police report.

Clarence Reed, 47, and the child’s mother, Jennifer Denen, 30, both of Hot Springs, Ark., are now charged with domestic battery, permitting abuse of a minor and endangering welfare of a minor.

Police received a call Friday from the Cooper-Anthony Mercy Child Advocacy Center, where a staff member told an officer that a malnourished 4-year-old had been abused in her home.

Reed and Denen, who were at the center when police arrived, were later arrested.

Denen told police that she had seen her boyfriend strike her daughter with a plastic bat and said she’d heard Reed frequently call the child “Idiot.”

She admitted not seeking medical care for her daughter, the police report said.

Reed told authorities that he hit the child. But instead of a plastic bat, he told police, he had used a half-inch-thick wooden paddle, according to the report.

He also admitted zip-tying the child to punish her for climbing the kitchen cabinets.

And although he said he had called the child “Idiot,” Reed told police he meant it as a joke.

Cpl. Kirk Zaner, spokesman for the Hot Springs Police Department, told The Washington Post that a total of six children lived in the house, all of whom are Denen’s. One, an 11-month-old, is her only child with Reed.

Zaner said the 4-year-old girl and the 11-month-old are now in the custody of the Department of Human Services. The four older siblings are with their biological father.

In 2012, state and local child protective services received about 3.4 million reports of children being abused or neglected, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The majority of them, 78 percent, were victims of neglect; 18 percent suffered physical abuse, according to the CDC

About 80 percent of perpetrators were parents, the CDC said, while six percent were relatives other than parents. Four percent of perpetrators were the parents’ unmarried partners.

 

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Child abuse is such an incredibly awful crime. Besides the physical abuse, there is emotional and mental abuse. The results of this abuse can last a lifetime even with good therapy and medication. My heart breaks for this child. I have seen child abuse close up and the scars it leaves. It used to be like battery and no one believed you and the abuse slowly broke you down. You grew up believing you were what you were told you were.

 

Putting a child into the system isn’t always an answer because the system often makes the problems worse. I hope that this little one has relatives who will be able to take her in and love her and raise her the way she deserves to be raised. People like this should not have children.

 

Namaste

Barbara

The Wounded Warrior Project


 

 

For a pacifist, dealing with the concept of soldiers is difficult. When I was young  and protesting the Vietnam War, I learned that though I object to war it is not the fault of the soldiers. We abandoned the Vietnam soldiers when they came home. We didn’t get what they had gone through and that they were doing the best they could in the circumstances. When Bush Sr. began the Gulf War, I sat on the floor in front of the TV crying. I was crying for all of the innocent people who would be victims of this war. I cried about all sons and daughters who would give their lives. All the parents who would be devastated.

 

Now, I see our children coming home and I see the damage that has been done to them. I can’t think about the purpose of these wars. I now know that we have to take care of the injured. The innocent citizens and our children. Today, the Wounded Warrior Project is a wonderful way for us to help the young people who are coming home damaged in body and mind. I don’t think about what happened but what they are dealing with now back at home.

 

One of my dearest friends’ sons did two tours in Iraq. I was freaked of course. He was shot and the Army called and told his parents, but also mentioned they didn’t know where he was.  I am sure every parent would understand  their emotions at this news. I contacted a university professor I am good friends with and she contacted a Colonel she knew. He explained that they probably knew but weren’t saying. In reality, he spent days at the Iraqi airport. He was then sent to Germany for surgery. He is home now and is doing well, but will not talk about what happened to him.

 

So keep an open mind and heart towards all the young people as they come home. We sent them away after teaching them how to kill. Now we are asking these young men and women to come home and pick up their lives as workers, husbands, wives, parents as if nothing had happened to them in the middle years. Our young people are damaged and they need to know they are appreciated, They need to know that we are here for them. And that America is willing to help them heal and that their healing is important to us. You can help with the Wounded Warrior Project if you want to. You can help someone’s son or daughter heal physically and mentally.

 

 

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Abuse is a Crime


This is your opportunity to stop this subjection and ownership of the female gender

This is your opportunity to stop this subjection and ownership of the female gender

This is abuse

This is abuse

Abuse is part of the War on Women. The War is extensive and harsh. Today I want to talk about abuse. Women are abused here and around the world. Children are abused here and everywhere. 5% of American men are abused.

I helped to start a Women’s shelter in the 1970’s. It was started by Jewish, Catholic and Protestant women for women and children. It was a secular grass roots project and was run with lots of hard, sweaty, frustrating work. The first shelter was a rundown house because that is all we could get. We buried a penny in the tree lawn then rolled up sleeves and got to work.

We did not have assistance from police. More police are injured during domestic calls than any other type of call.We had a huge job ahead of us. The FBI statistics told us a woman was abused every nine seconds.

So what is abuse? There is emotional, mental and physical abuse. It does not matter if you know the abuser or not. It can happen on a date or when you get pregnant. You can be killed. Many women and children have lost their lives to Domestic Violence.

Slapping, kicking, pushing, spitting, blackened eyes, broken ribs, hair pulling, throwing things around, punching anywhere, are all forms of physical abuse. It often goes hand in hand with being called foul names, told you are ugly, stupid, you could never find another man. It includes being told you are nothing without him. Domestic Violence affects women from all portions of society — the poor and the wealthy, the college graduate and the high school dropout, wives and girlfriends of criminals, professors, policemen, factory workers, any woman can be abused.  Statistics show that, whoever you are, someone you know, right now, is being abused

An abused woman and her children need to leave and go into a shelter. Addresses are confidental. Women are there to counsel, take pictures, take you to a hospital. Shelters are a safe place where you won’t be judged. You will be helped and supported. It is the most important work I have ever done.

Often women stay in an abusive situation because they have no where to go. The abuser will isolate them from family and friends. Many will not allow the woman out alone. Sometimes a woman can go out, but the abuser calls frequently and wants details of what she did and whom she spoke to.

I am aware that younger women today do not understand abuse. I want anyone who is reading this to understand that the problem, the crime is with the abuser and not you. Abusers can kill. But most victims get away and can begin again.

If you are in an abusive relationship, reach out to a hotline. They will know where you can go. Taxi cab drivers often know where shelters are and if they see that you are abused, they will take you to one.

If anyone tells you that you need them,and can’t live without them, if they yell at you loudly and accompany the yelling with slaps, pushing, pinching arms and legs, then you need to get away from this person. You are not alone. There are many people who will help you and your children. Loving arms are here for you to support you and to give you back your life.

There are people who will help you.

There are people who will help you.

Real men don't hit women or children

Real men don’t hit women or children

Women there is help for you. Reach out and we are here.

Women there is help for you. Reach out and we are here.

Domestic Violence is a crime. You can’t beat a woman.

Rights for Women Won’t End on November sixth


November 6, 2012 does decide who will be our President for the next four years.What won’t be decided is what will happen to women and our rights and issues.

In 2013, we face another important battle in Congress. We need to have passed the legislation to make women legally equal. Think it is not necessary? That is what they said about women voting. Essentially, they said we weren’t smart enough to vote. Not only are we smart enough but we are smarter than some men. Nothing personal.

Women are still going to require access to contraception. The whole “be fruitful and multiply” thing is well past the point of no return. We have seven billion plus human beings on this planet and I believe we have fulfilled the directive.

Children around the world are dying from hunger, lack of clean water, violent revolutions, greed, bigotry, racism and in some countries if a girl is born she will be left to die. Baby girls die alone, unwanted and unloved. Even if their mothers want them, the husband will throw both of them out, if necessary.

Here in America, the most prosperous country in the world, our children aren’t golden. They often lack proper education, health care, food, love, encouragement. Why you ask? Because they weren’t born into rich families, but into poor and disadvantaged families. Most of society turns away from the reality of what these children lack and what they suffer.

Domestic Violence is gaining victims. The laws we worked so hard to get on the books, are often not being enforced. Young girls are not being told no one has the right to pinch, punch, slap, rape, hit, demean, kick, or call them names. We must tell these girls there is help and they should not be forced to live in violence. There are help lines and shelters where then will be helped and legally protected in every state and in almost every town.

Human trafficking is where many boys and girls end up. Sold into sexual slavery and facing decades of being objectified and beaten by any man who has the money to pay for their services. These kids live in hell on earth. Their innocent souls corrupted and ravaged by men who only care about themselves and what their money can buy them.

All people have the right to live authentically. No one should have to pretend to fit in. Everyone needs to be accepted for who they are. Parents, society and governments need to make this possible…

I have barely scratched the surface, but I will continue to address these issues as time goes on.