An Unlived Life


A Scottish beach

At some time, really look at your bedroom. The one room in your house or apartment where you show who and what you are on the inside. Your passion, hopes and dreams are expressed. You reveal much of your deepest feelings about yourself.

It doesn’t matter if you live alone or not, a woman’s bedroom is a reflection of her inner most self. Often, we women have messy unorganized bedrooms and they are a picture of inner emotions. Often, a messy bedroom is an SOS for an unlived life. Our rooms are a haven or respite for our souls. We sleep there, and relax and read and have romance.

The definition of the purpose of the bedroom has expanded to being a secondary family room. Do you pay bills, answer, emails, iron clothes, or exercise?

We are at the turning of the cycle of life and the year. Time to rethink and resort what is important in our lives. It is time to stop being invisible and create a room for yourself that is as authentic as you are. The term ‘boudoir” turns our bedroom space into a decompression zone. A boudoir takes you to a completely new level of life. A place were we can take off the facade and be in attendance to our own thoughts and feelings.

So it is fine to have a Do Not Disturb sign on your doorknob and I encourage it. Solitude does not mean you are avoiding the family, you just deserve a few precious moments when you are focused on what you need. A chance to take a block of time to remember who you really are and what you want and where you want to go. This life of yours, is meant to be lived. Existing just doesn’t quite do it. Don’t stand still, bloom and live your life. The life you are grasping for, start making the steps to take youself there. Have a good journey!

National Museum of Art, Washington D.C., sculpture garden
Acrylic on stretched canvas by Barbara Mattio

The Work to be Done


The language of the eyes is tears.

While I am celebrating Labor Day and it’s often forgotten beginnings, I am also looking at what is happening around the world and here to women. There are honor killings, little girls are being sold for their bodies, rape is on the rise in America as well as most other countries. Abuse is rising and I mean physical as well as emotional abuse. Women and children are dying due to Domestic Violence. Children are being molested every day. Sex offenders are being trusted to register. Not any help to the person they kidnap and molest. There are people who are kidnapping our young teens and selling them for their bodies and they are left to rot in brothels all around the world.

My point is that while we have to have positive thoughts, meditate, pray and work for peace in this world, we also have to fight to stop the treatment that women and children are experiencing here in America and around the world.

This is not a time to be silent. It is not a time to conform. This is a time to reach out a hand and help. It is time to volunteer for a shelter, a time to donate to a children’s after-school program. It is time to tell your friend that you can’t agree with her opinions. She is welcome to them but you don’t share them.

It is a time to remember the example of Martin Luther King Sr., Desmond Tutu, Nelson Mandela, John F. Kennedy, Ghandi and Rosa Parks. It is time to speak up, stand tall with dignity and remember that passive resistance freed India from being a British colony to being a country in its own right.

Positive change takes energy, passion, love, and determination. We are all capable of change and we have changed things before, it is time to do it again.

Write to your Congress people and Senators, on the state as well as the national level. Look in your communities for shelters, Rape Crisis, Planned Parenthood or youth groups. Look at what they need and find what you can do to help and make a change. We all must work to make this a better world. There are millions of women and children who need our help and need us to care.