First women couldn’t be in the military because it was too “tempting” to have women on military bases. Next, we could have women in the military, but they could only do non-combat duty. Now, women in the military can be in combat.
As a pacifist, I don’t want any of this; I’ve always been a pacifist and I’m sure I will die a pacifist. As a feminist, however, I support a woman’s right to choose what do with her life, and that includes military service.
What disturbs me about women in the military isn’t that they want to go and serve their country, or that they want to be able to fight for their country; it is the fact that sex, once again, is being used as an excuse for harassment, molestation and rape.
For thousands of years, males — i.e. Adam and all non-feminist men after — have used the excuse “she made me do it”. There is not a legitimate reason, ever, to sexual molest, rape, attack or violate a woman. In actuality, these things have to do with power and control, not with sex.
The military is the American bastion of male power and control. The good old boys are going to have to suck it up and get a grip on themselves; they need to realize that the only thing they have legitimate power and control over is themselves, and begin to act accordingly.
US Military Accused of Punishing Sexual Assault Victims in New Human Rights Watch Report
The United States military wrongfully discharges rape survivors while routinely avoiding punishing the accused rapist, according to a report published Thursday from Human Rights Watch.
The report details the accounts of several members of the armed forces being discharged for “personality disorders,” after being drugged and assaulted, including Juliet Simmons, Diana Gonzalez and Amy Quinn.
At times, the 270 members of the military interviewed said they were accused of lying about their rape, while other times being told to stand at attention for six to eight hours a day as punishment for making the ordeal an issue to begin with, as in Amy Quinn’s case.
U.S. military members are coming forward with accounts of what happened after being raped while on active duty.Source: Chip Somodevilla/Getty Images
The organization’s detailed analysis of some of the military’s rape cases was immediately denied by the military, which, in an email to CNN, accused HRW of not actually reviewing service records. As HRW notes, however, the military has been forced to provide several of the records they analyzed as public records.
“All too often superior officers choose to expeditiously discharge sexual assault victims rather than support their recovery and help them keep their position,” the report notes. “Very few sexual assault survivors we spoke to managed to stay in service.”
Joan has been a guest blogger before on IdealisticRebel and she has just had a new book of poetry published. It’s called Fluency. Joannie and I have been friends forever, the kind of friends who last a lifetime. When her book came out she sent me a copy, and I read it cover to cover. Immediately, there was one poem in particular which I found to be very powerful and very moving, which I wanted to share with each of you. If I hadn’t gotten so sick with the deep bronchitis, I would have gotten this to you earlier. I’m still on medication and have doctor appointments coming up to handle this, and my blogging will be sporadic for while yet, but I just couldn’t wait any longer to share Joan’s words with you.
Joan and her lovely husband Paul have retired and are moving to be closer to their daughter and granddaughter. Joan has been through a great deal in life’s trauma’s, and she has been and remains a glowing light for what can be accomplished when you look up after you survive trauma in your life, and still retain your inner strength and beauty.
Here is one of my earlier photographs of her. We used to go on Sunday mornings to the beach and have breakfast, and play volleyball. I would leave and go home to shower an put on my nurse’s uniform while my friends stayed on to play.
Joan is also a wonderful musician and a classically trained vocalist, and often sings with her husband Paul Esiert as Fire and Ice, in and around Pennsylvania, Ohio and New York.
Here are her words
Jing-o is the Name-o
Greasy dago Guinea wop
Spaghetti bender Mafioso
Class, let’s see if Joan can talk while sitting on her hands
Let’s listen to her sandals go wop, wop, wop
as the dagos go by
Look at that dago nose
John Metzger and David Duke grand idiot dragons
and wizards of the KKK – the jury’s still out on the eye-talians
they’re not really white
Back in the day Warren’s Eastside fathers warned their daughters
not to go past the railroad tracks
to the West End where all those dagos live
the Ghetto in the foothills of the Allegheny Mountains
10% of 1st and 2nd generations Italian-Americans
served in WW II
Italian-American soldiers suffered
the highest number of casualties
Burning crosses
Murders in the fine Italian New Jersey farmlands
The Man can’t have the wops working the soil
better than he does
All Italians are the mafia
Did ya hear the one about the dago and the…
or the wop and the…
Those shady Southern Italians with their beady eyes
and black hair
I’m not racist, but…
Nigger lover
She must be Italian
Hey lady, the stork gave you the wrong baby
Are you a hooker?
What a sham, Mr and Mrs Papalia
Joan’s such a beautiful girl
Mrs. Papalia, disown your daughter
Did ya hear the one about the nigger and the…
Did ya hear the one about the coon and the…
She’s the one that married the colored boy
Joan’s invited to the party but not him
I feel bad for the children
Them babies should be put in a burlap bag
and down in the river
The apartment’s already been rented
I can’t babysit for you anymore
Retail security watching every move
Glass ceilings
An EMT’s failed drowning rescue — Dead?
Who cares – one less nigger around.
Amadou Dialo: New York City
killed by 41 shots in a doorway
reaching for his wallet
White hoods and robes in upscale Amherst, NY
Jasper, Texas
Ferguson, Missouri
Charlotte, North Carolina
Ocala, Florida
(How much time you got?)
Ninth Ward, New Orleans – Hurricane Katrina
LWB Living while black
LWM Living while Middle Eastern
while Indian
while Hispanic
while Jewish
while Asian
while Muslim
while hoodied
while LGBT
while fat
while female
Living while whatever you are that they aren’t
(How much time have you got?)
I’m not prejudiced, but….
–Joan Papalia Eisert
from Fluency, available on Amazon in paperback and Kindle editions
It’s The Sister, again with a quick update on our dear Rebel
She got a bit worse yesterday, so we made a quick trip to the lovely ER at Park Ridge Medical Center (I’m not kidding: lovely facility, wonderful staff!)
Turns out what we thought was just a nasty virus has turned into Deep Bronchitis. She’s on antibiotics and steroids to clear it all out, but is (understandably) under the weather in a fairly major way right now
Hopefully, by this time next week, she’ll be back to her regular self!
#BringBackOurGirls: Chibok Victim Found in Nigeria After 2 Years, Activist Says
byALEXANDER SMITH
One of the schoolgirls whose abduction triggered the #BringBackOurGirls campaign has been located after more than two years in captivity, activists and military officials said Wednesday.
The mass kidnapping of 276 schoolgirls by Boko Haram from the Nigerian town of Chibok in April 2014 ignited an international outcry. The ensuing #BringBackOurGirls campaign was backed by the likes of Michelle Obama, while the U.S. and other countries sent military assistance.
A handful of the kidnapped girls managed to escape early on but most were never found.
However on Wednesday the Nigerian Army and the #BringBackOurGirls campaign group said that one of the remaining captives, a 19-year-old with a 4-month-old baby, was rescued by pro-government vigilantes on the edge of Nigeria’s Sambisa Forest, a Boko Haram hideout.
Alongside her, the Civilian JTF detained a “suspected Boko Haram terrorist” named Mohammed Hayatu, who claimed to be her “husband,” according to a statement from Nigerian Army spokesman Col. Sani Usman.
Boko Haram fighters are known to have forced their kidnap victims into marriage, rape, and conscription as suicide bombers, according to Amnesty International and others.
A picture released by the Nigerian Army purporting to show Mohammed Hayatu, who it identified as a suspected Boko Haram “terrorist” and so-called “husband” of a rescued member of the kidnapped Chibok girls. Nigerian Army
A picture released by the Nigerian Army purporting to show Mohammed Hayatu, who it identified as a suspected Boko Haram “terrorist” and so-called “husband” of a rescued member of the kidnapped Chibok girls. Nigerian Army
The precise details of how the young woman was recovered by the militiamen was immediately unclear. The military initially gave a different name for the young woman, before correcting themselves.
“This is a major, major breakthrough — this is the breakthrough we’ve been waiting for,” Bukky Shonibare, one of the strategic team members of the #BringBackOurGirls campaign, told NBC News. Her group also gave details of the rescue that were consistent with the military’s updated account.
The young woman was taken to a military base in the town of Damboa before being brought to her mother and her former high-school head teacher — both of whom positively confirmed her identify, according to Shonibare.
The activists are “100 percent sure that this was one of the Chibok girls,” Shonibare added.
The teenager, Hayatu and the baby were all taken to the regional capital of Maiduguri for medical attention and screening, the military said.
According to Shonibare’s account, the girl said the rest of the Chibok girls were in the Sambisa Forest, contradicting previous suggestions that the group had been split up and taken abroad.
“At some points we heard they were in four different camps,” she said. “Now this girl is saying all of them are in Sambisa … It’s just 24 hours since [ she was found], so we need to, as the days go by, get more information from her to get an assessment of how many are there.”
Members of the #BringBackOurGirls campaign embrace each other at a sit-out in Abuja, Nigeria Members of the #BringBackOurGirls campaign embrace each other at a sit-out in Abuja, Nigeria, on May 18, 2016, after hearing that a Nigerian teenager kidnapped by Boko Haram more than two years ago was rescued. Afolabi Sotunde / Reuters
John Campbell, the former U.S. ambassador to Nigeria, told NBC News: “If the positive ID by the mother and the head teacher checks out, it would seem that she really is one of the Chibok girls. The question is whether it does check out.”
He added: “I would want to talk to the mother and head teacher rather than a military spokesman who, as far as I’m concerned, as limited credibility.”
While the Chibok Girls drew the most international attention, an estimated 2,000-plus women and girls have been abducted during Boko Haram’s violent campaign in Nigeria. Chibok may not even be the largest group to be kidnapped, with Human Rights Watch reporting that some 400 people were taken from the town of Damasak last year.
The army gave details of a large-scale operation against Boko Haram on Tuesday — the day the young woman was reportedly found — in Sambisa forest.
The military said troops killed 15 Boko Haram fighters after coming under heavy fire in the area of Alafa.
Troops also rescued 41 hostages — mainly women and children, the military added in a statement.
While Nigeria’s government has publicly touted an aggressive campaign to beat back Boko Haram, its failure to find the girls has drawn criticism.
The news comes one day after the president’s wife, Aisha Buhari, presented “symbolic” checks to the mothers of the missing girls.
Editor’s note: The name of the young woman has been removed from this story as it was not clear whether she consented to her identity being released.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.”
—Naomi Wolf
My English grandmother, Caroline, would put it in her own way. “Girl, you have a bloody tongue in your head, use it.” I did and I continue to do so. There has always been a price but it was the advice that probably saved my emotional life. We had high tea and I played bingo with her and her lady friends. I never lost and it was years until I realized they let me win. She also had a closet with a box of toys in it for us to play with. I could walk under her dining room table. Today, I tell my own grandchildren to speak their truth, I always let them win at games and there is always a box of toys.
My grandparents came over on the boat through Nova Scotia from London with 5 children and one on the way. I think she was brave and good and she loved me. I still miss her.
My grandmother Marie was the center of my life. She was Croatian. She sewed dresses, even wedding dresses, by hand. All those little tiny stitches by hand. She kept the cleanest house I have ever seen. I can’t sew. It makes me a nervous wreck. I spent summers with her and my grandpa in Cleveland when I was young and I was very happy there with them. I learned to be a good person from them and to have good manners and to love the Cleveland Indians. I was 16 when Grandma Marie died and I was inconsolable. The sunshine left my world and I miss her still.
A Word to the Wise
Sometimes, with age comes wisdom. These pioneering women were wise with skills and experience, and they were often able to share with us their intuition, nurturing, compassion, and personal truths. Often this occurred in a simple act of relating a story, teaching a lesson or modeling.
Words brought hope and encouragement. The special way a loving grandparent spoke a child’s name was soothing. Some words, sacred phrases, or secular advice conjured healing for spiritual or physical wounds. Other words became cues for listening well; what followed might change a life forever. For one granddaughter, a grandmother’s words taught her to appreciate everyday activities for their simple truths and wise instruction.
Bone of my Bones
“Families will not be broken.
Curse and expel them, send their children wandering,
drown them in floods and fires,
and old women will make songs out of all these sorrows
and sing them on mild evenings.”
—Marilynne Robinson
My grandmothers were my oracles, my wise women and nothing ever shook their love for me. I was not always an easy child. I hated hypocrisy and spoke up about it. I hated injustice and that was good for a rant. I am a survivor of child abuse. My mother was my abuser. My grandmothers were the center of my universe and the anchor in my turbulent seas. They listened as I poured out my pain and fear and anger. Their love kept me alive and going forward. I needed to tell people so that grandmothers know how vital they are to their grandchildren. I have nine grandchildren. They are the sun and moon, the celestial music to me. I am so lucky to have them in my life. If you have read my about page, you know the many things I have done in my life. Being a grandmother is the most important and the most fulfilling.
To all of my readers and friends who are mothers, aunts, or grandmothers, know you are the tree of life in the world of your little ones. It is a position of honor so celebrate this high honor.
The issue of The War on Women is happening all over the world. It looks different in every country but it still exists everywhere: it is still the disrespect and even hatred of women by men.
In America, it is pay inequality and the glass ceiling. It is also the fact that we are the only citizens who are not legally equal.
Often women are not given an education, and in some countries, women’s bodies are controlled and the government decides if they have children and how many. In other countries, a wife is immolated upon the briar of her dead husband. In some other countries, girls and women are sold because the family is too poor and there is not enough food. In yet other countries, female genital mutilation is performed to make a girl marriageable and to ensure she will not enjoy sex; in others, acid is thrown in a girl’s face to disfigure her because she said no to a young man; and in some a woman is killed in a so-called honor killing to save face for the family. In some countries, men buy little girls to have sex with them because they are pedophiles.
Think about it. It is the most disgusting list of crimes. I can barely think of a more despicable list. Fathers, Brothers, Uncles, Grandfathers look the other way; some participate; some organize the events. Misogyny has existed for many millennia and I realize it will not go away over night. But we must stand up to it. We must speak out. We must do whatever we can to help each woman who is being used, sold or brutalized.
Turning the world light on each incident is a good place to begin. Pressuring police in various countries to arrest and courts to convict perpetrators is also a righteous action.
Women, stand up for each other. Feminist men, stand up, speak up and be the brave souls we know you are and help women everywhere to become free, to live free and to pass that on to their daughters.
Namaste,
Barbara
Pakistan police arrest 14 in ‘honor killing’ of teen said to have helped bride to elope
Pakistan police arrest 14 in ‘honor killing’ of teen said to have helped bride to elope
Pakistani police escort blindfolded suspects accused of killing and setting fire to a teen girl to a court in Abbottabad on Thursday. (Shakeel Ahmed/AFP/Getty Images)
PESHAWAR, Pakistan — More than a dozen leaders of a small village in northwestern Pakistan were arrested Thursday and charged with burning a teenage girl to death because she helped one of her friends elope, security officials said.The crime, which is renewing attention on Pakistan’s horrific record of protecting women and children from abuse, took place on the outskirts of Abbottabad in Khyber Pakhtunkhwa province.Khurram Rasheed, police chief for the northern district of Abbottabad, said Thursday that the body of Ambreen Riasat was found in a burned van in the tourist resort of Donga Gali on April 29, the Associated Press reported. Her exact age was in dispute.A graphic photo of the teenager’s charred remains quickly circulated online. It appeared as though the girl’s arms had been bound before she was set on fire.Initially, police suspected that she may have been raped by a scorned boyfriend or as part of a family dispute. But Saeed Wazir, the regional police chief in Abbottabad, said Thursday that the killing was a “pre-planned act” involving 14 village leaders. Wazir said the entire village council had sanctioned the act to send a message to other minors.“They said she must be burnt alive to make a lesson for other girls,” he said.In an act of defiance against Pakistan’s strict Islamic and paternal customs, Wazir said, the victim had helped one of her friends secretly marry her boyfriend. The bride “didn’t obey her father’s will and did a love marriage at court with a guy,” he said.
After the bride’s father found out, he requested that village elders investigate. In many parts of Pakistan, women and girls are expected to receive their father’s consent before marrying.
The village elders called a meeting, which is referred to as a Jirga. Under Pashtun culture in Pakistan and in neighboring Afghanistan, such gatherings are often held to try to reach consensus on how best to resolve local disputes. At times, the meetings also become a form of street justice.
According to Wazir, the village elders investigating the marriage quickly discovered that the victim had helped her friend evade her father’s will. The elders decided the victim needed to be punished for not disclosing her role in the marriage.
Several men then dragged the teenager out of her house and tied her into the van, Wazir said.
“Despite the requests and pleas from her parents, villagers forcibly brought her out and set her afire while roping her to the seat of the vehicle,” he said.
Both the leader of the Jirga and the father of the newlywed girl were arrested, Wazir said. A dozen other men who participated in the Jirga also were charged, he added.
It was not immediately clear whether the new bride or her husband were punished.
The case represents a troublesome expansion of mob-like tactics that women can face in Pakistan when they disobey their parents or extended family members.
According to the Human Rights Commission of Pakistan, 8,694 girls and women have died in so-called honor killings here between 2004 and 2015. Those crimes involved revenge killings for dishonoring a family, village or local custom.
About one-fourth of those cases involved the death of a minor. Although most common in remote areas, honor killings still occur in Pakistan even in larger, more progressive cities. The problem was highlighted recently in the Oscar-winning film “A Girl in the River: The Price of Forgiveness.”
The documentary profiles a 18-year-old woman who was beaten and shot by her father and uncle in Punjab province after she married a man against their wishes. The woman, Saba, survived. Her father and uncle were arrested but later freed, according to HBO Documentary Films.
After he saw the film, Pakistani Prime Minister Nawaz Sharif vowed to end honor killings.
Earlier this year, Sharif’s political party, Pakistan Muslim League-N, pushed through a women’s rights bill in Punjab province. The legislation, strongly opposed by the religious community, establishes a 24-hour domestic abuse hotline and network of shelters offering housing, first aid and counseling for women.
Still, a horrific wave of abuse continues.
On Sunday, Punjab police arrested a man and charged him with killing his wife, who was seven months pregnant, the Express Tribune newspaper reported. Using a club, the man apparently beat the woman to death after she refused to allow him to take a second wife.
Also in Punjab over the weekend, a man tossed acid onto a 37-year-old woman, resulting in burns over 30 percent of her body. Pakistan’s Dawn newspaper reported that the woman’s nephew is the main suspect. The man apparently wanted to marry one of the woman’s daughters – his cousin — but was refused.
“He was annoyed with his maternal aunt for turning down his marriage proposal,” Azhar Akram, a police officer in Multan, told Dawn.
Oh God of all, at this time of our gradual awakening to the dangers we are imposing on our beautiful Earth, open the hearts and minds of all your children, that we may learn to nurture rather than destroy our planet. Amen.
—Lorraine R. Schmitz
Trees become more beautiful with the years, wizened, bent but not broken.
“Let there be peace, welfare and righteousness
in every part of the world.
Let confidence and friendship prevail
for the good of east and west
for the good of the needy south
for the good of all humanity.
Let the people inspire their leaders
helping them to seek peace by peaceful means
helping them and urging them
to build a better world
a world with a home for everybody
a world with food and work for everybody
a world with spiritual freedom
for everybody.
Let those who have the power of money
be motivated by selfless compassion.
Let money become a tool
for the good of mankind.
Let those who have power
deal respectfully with the resources of the planet.
Let them respect and maintain
the purity of the air, water, land and subsoil.
Let them co-operate to restore
the ecological soundness of Mother Earth.
Let trees grow up by the billions
around the world.
Let green life invade the deserts.
Let industry serve humanity
and produce waste that serves nature.
Let technology respect
the holiness of Mother Earth.
Let those who control the mass media
contribute to create mutual understanding
contribute to create optimism and confidence.
Let ordinary people
Meet by the millions across the borders.
Let them create a universal network of love and friendship.
Let billions of human beings
co-0perate to create a good future
for their children and grandchildren.
Let us survive
In peace and harmony with Mother Earth.”
—Hagen Hasselbalch
Because we, Americans are in an election cycle, we must consider all the things that a President will have influence over or control over. War or peace. Jobs or homelessness. Green spaces around our cities breathing air we desperately need or going outside with masks over our noses and mouths. This person will have a do it my way or the highway attitude or will exhibit compassion and gentleness for the peoples who are refugees around the world. This person will enforce the precepts that our Founding Fathers formed this “great experiment” upon or they will trod all over the rights and acts which our nation was founded upon. We will have free speech or we will become a totalitarian government. We will do as we are told or we will have another Civil War.
Whomever is elected will be watched. Not just by “We the people” but by history. History will tell the truth. It may not be what is taught in our schools in the next couple of generations but the truth is what history will demonstrate in the long haul. Fellow Americans, I ask only two things during this election cycle. First, get out and vote. It is a right and it is a responsibility. If your candidate is not still in the running, vote for whomever is going to be the best or do the least damage to America. You still have choices. I, myself, have voted for the other party when the candidate my party put forth wasn’t the best choice. Second, don’t be afraid to vote for the candidate who beats their competitor. To be blunt, if you are for Sanders, and Hillary is the nominee, don’t vote for Trump in your anger. If the FBI really had all the evidence against Hillary they say they have, she would have been arrested by now. She has not been. If you think money has bought her freedom, then surely money bought Trump his victories. Which candidate will save our trees, water, stop fracking, clean up the air, stop dumping waste into our rivers and lakes and into our oceans and seas. Do you know we are about to lose our Great Barrier Reef? It is true.
A recently released report revealed a heart wrenching discovery about Australia’s Great Barrier Reef. The researchers at the ARC Centre of Excellence for Coral Reef Studies found that at least 93 percent of the Great Barrier Reef suffers from coral bleaching.
The bleaching phenomenon occurs when corals are stressed by high water temperatures or other causes. Severe bleaching could lead to the death of corals.
The task force surveyed 911 coral reefs by air and the accuracy of the researchers initial aerial surveys have been confirmed by scientific divers who are continuing to measure the impact of the bleaching. Dive teams have already discovered about 50 percent coral death.
“We have now flown over 911 individual reefs in a helicopter and light plane, to map out the extent and severity of bleaching along the full 2300 km length of the Great Barrier Reef. Of all the reefs we surveyed, only 7% (68 reefs) have escaped bleaching entirely. At the other end of the spectrum, between 60 and 100% of corals are severely bleached on 316 reefs, nearly all in the northern half of the Reef,” Professor Terry Hughes, head of the ARC Centre of Excellence for Coral Reef Studies at James Cook University said in a statement.
Hughes tweeted a map showing the results of the bleaching that hit the northern parts of the reef hardest:
See image of the Great Barrier Reef below:
Namaste,
Barbara
Our trees have stood over us, protecting us for hundreds of generations.
I am changing
coming to a deep realization
that I have neglected
something vital
whose time is coming.
I am preparing
with solitude and prayer
to release the deep
smoldering volcanic Force
within
no longer
can it
or should it
be contained
for its time is now.
Mensen maken de samenleving en nemen daarin een positie in. Deze website geeft toegang tot een diversiteit aan artikelen die gaan over 'samenleven', belicht vanuit verschillende perspectieven. De artikelen hebben gemeen dat er gezocht wordt naar wat 'mensen bindt, in plaats van wat hen scheidt'.