In reality, in the United States, a lot of men say “I won’t ever hurt you”, but they will look benignly at bruises and fractured bones or black eyes, and feel that they haven’t done anything.
But they have. They have physically abused you. They have battered you.
And they will promise over and over again not to ever do it again. But they will. And each incident will be a little worse than the one before.
An abuser is trying to break your self-esteem, your self-confidence, YOU. He wants to control you and keep you in his power. When he says you can’t leave him , what he’s really saying is he can’t lose his power and control over you.
You need to contact your local shelter or the national help hotline. Get counseling. Make an escape plan, before you’re hurt so badly you don’t care anymore that you’re hurt. Leave, before he kills you.
There is legal help for you in every state. The laws and penalties for battering vary by state, but your local shelter will help you get through the process. They know what to do.
It is time to begin a new, violence-free phase of your life.
All you have to do is reach out.
Namaste,
Barbara
idealisticrebel 
Well done, Barbara!
Keep putting the message out there
Big hugs
john
Thanks John, I appreciate your support. Hugs, Barbara
That’s really sad. They either cheat on you, leave you for another, or abuse you mentally and physically.
Women should be strong and financially independent.
Yes, it is sad and in a perfect world we could accomplish it but we don’t live in one and so we have to teach men and women to without violence. Our society promotes violence so much, guns are so readily available that it increases the entire problem. Hugs, Barbara
All of us need to be strong and financially independent. You are right! Hugs, Barbara
Hi Barbara, Thanks for this post.
It is so significant that so many of us (women) don’t even realise we are being abused. It only proves more that they (majority men) pull the wool over our eyes to such an extent and we generally believe them. My blood is boiling with frustration as I write.
Regards. Marie.
Marieryan, mine has boiled since the 70’s. Right now we have to deal with Trump and all he and his cronies will plan for all minorities, religious groups, and the poor. Thank you so much for stopping by my blog and leaving a comment. I look forward to getting to know you better. Hugs, Barbara