In reality, in the United States, a lot of men say “I won’t ever hurt you”, but they will look benignly at bruises and fractured bones or black eyes, and feel that they haven’t done anything.
But they have. They have physically abused you. They have battered you.
And they will promise over and over again not to ever do it again. But they will. And each incident will be a little worse than the one before.
An abuser is trying to break your self-esteem, your self-confidence, YOU. He wants to control you and keep you in his power. When he says you can’t leave him , what he’s really saying is he can’t lose his power and control over you.
You need to contact your local shelter or the national help hotline. Get counseling. Make an escape plan, before you’re hurt so badly you don’t care anymore that you’re hurt. Leave, before he kills you.
There is legal help for you in every state. The laws and penalties for battering vary by state, but your local shelter will help you get through the process. They know what to do.
It is time to begin a new, violence-free phase of your life.
All you have to do is reach out.